Money is much more than numbers in a bank account—it is deeply connected to our emotions, beliefs, and experiences. Over the years, I have seen how financial struggles, such as living paycheck to paycheck, being in debt, or not having enough savings for emergencies, often have little to do with income and more to do with how people perceive, manage, and react to money. Many professionals, entrepreneurs, single parents, and retirees struggle not because they lack resources but because they are trapped in unhealthy financial patterns shaped by past experiences.
As a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER, I’ve guided individuals towards financial independence by helping them break through these psychological barriers. This article explores nine powerful lessons, such as understanding your money story, overcoming financial shame and guilt, breaking free from toxic money habits, and more, that transformed my financial journey and those of my clients, leading them toward true financial freedom.
1. Understanding Your Money Story
How Early Experiences Shape Your Financial Future
Many of us do not realize that our first experiences with money—whether positive or negative—shape our financial habits as adults. If money was a source of stress growing up, chances are you may feel anxious about finances, even if you earn well today.
A successful businessman once shared how his father’s bankruptcy shaped his extreme fear of investing. Even after becoming financially stable, he kept all his money in savings accounts, afraid of losing it like his father did. Over time, he understood that past financial failures do not dictate the future. By shifting his approach, he built a diversified investment portfolio and achieved financial confidence.
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What You Should Do
• Identify your financial triggers. Are you afraid of investing? Do you avoid looking at your bank statements?
• Challenge past financial fears. Just because a family member struggled does not mean you will, too.
• Adopt a new money narrative. Wealth is created with the right mindset and habits.
2. Overcoming Financial Shame and Guilt
Stop Feeling Bad About Money
Many people feel guilty about financial mistakes, poor investment choices, or debt. However, guilt does not help—it only keeps you stuck. Financial freedom comes from acknowledging mistakes and moving forward.
A single mother came to me feeling guilty about not saving enough for her child’s future. She felt like she had failed, but after restructuring her finances and creating a solid financial plan, she started building wealth without guilt, experiencing a profound sense of relief and a renewed hope for the future.
What You Should Do
• Forgive yourself for past financial mistakes. Learn from them instead of dwelling on them.
• Take small steps to build financial confidence. Every step forward counts.
• Surround yourself with financially wise people. Avoid financial negativity.
3. Breaking Free from Toxic Money Habits
Do not Let Your Past Define Your Future
Some people overspend when they feel stressed, others avoid financial planning due to fear, and many hesitate to invest because of past mistakes. Recognizing and changing these patterns is the first step toward true financial independence, empowering you to take control of your financial future.
A young couple had a habit of spending beyond their means. They maxed out their credit cards every month, leading to growing debt. Once they started budgeting and tracking their expenses, they quickly paid off their debts and built a stable financial foundation.
What You Should Do
• Recognize harmful money habits. Do you overspend? Avoid saving? Fear investing?
• Replace bad habits with healthier financial behaviours.
• Create accountability—Track your expenses and set clear financial goals.
4. Money and Relationships: The Hidden Conflicts
Why Financial Transparency Is Key
One of the most common causes of stress in relationships is financial disagreements. When couples are not on the same page about money, it can lead to resentment and conflict.
A couple struggled because one was a saver and the other a spender. Instead of fighting about money, they created a joint financial plan, balancing security with lifestyle. Today, they have separate spending accounts but shared investments.
What You Should Do
• Have open conversations about finances with your partner.
• Create a joint financial plan that includes both saving and spending.
• Avoid financial secrecy. Money should never be a hidden topic in a relationship.
5. Smart Investing: The Key to Wealth
Making Your Money Work for You
One of the biggest mistakes people make is chasing quick returns. True wealth is built through consistent, long-term investing.
A professional hesitated to invest because he once lost money in stocks. After learning about systematic investment plans (SIPs), a method of regularly investing a fixed sum in a mutual fund, and long-term diversification, he built an investment portfolio that continues to grow.
What You Should Do
• Start investing early, even with small amounts.
• Use systematic investments (SIPs) to reduce risk.
• Diversify across stocks, mutual funds, and real estate.
6. Money Guilt and Emotional Spending
Why Some People Feel Guilty About Wealth
Many people feel guilty about spending on themselves or fear investing because they do not feel worthy of wealth.
A woman who grew up in a financially struggling household felt guilty whenever she spent money on herself. She would rather give money away than invest in her future. Over time, she learned that building wealth is not selfish but empowering.
What You Should Do
• Recognize and heal money guilt. Financial security benefits not just you but your family.
• Create a balance between spending, saving, and giving.
• Invest in yourself—your education, health, and personal growth.
7. Overcoming Fear-Based Financial Decisions
Fear Can Cost More Than Risk Ever Will
Many people hesitate to make financial decisions due to fear of losing money, often leading to missed opportunities.
An entrepreneur kept delaying investing because he feared market crashes. When he finally started, he regretted waiting ten years—he could have tripled his wealth.
What You Should Do
• Understand that every financial decision involves some risk.
• Avoid waiting too long to invest. The best time to start was yesterday. The second-best time is today.
• Educate yourself on financial growth strategies.
8. Protecting Your Wealth with Insurance
Shielding Your Assets and Future
One medical emergency or unexpected expense can wipe out years of savings without proper insurance. Having the right insurance can provide security and reassurance, protecting your wealth and future.
A family had to take a significant loan for a medical emergency. If they had health insurance, their savings would have remained intact.
What You Should Do
• Get health, term life, and asset insurance.
• Ensure you and your family are adequately covered.
• Review and update insurance policies regularly.
9. Building Generational Wealth
Creating a Financial Legacy
Financial freedom is about your life and ensuring future generations are financially secure.
Wealth is not just about money. It is about passing on financial knowledge, habits, and opportunities to the next generation.
What You Should Do
• Invest in assets that grow over time.
• Teach financial literacy to your children.
• Plan wealth succession with estate planning and wills.
Final Thoughts
Financial freedom is more than having a significant income—it is about managing what you have effectively. Understanding your money mindset, building strong financial habits, and making smart investment choices can create a life of true wealth and security.
Disclaimer
The information provided in this article is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as financial, legal, or investment advice. Every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of the information, the author and publisher assume no responsibility for errors, inaccuracies, omissions, or any other inconsistencies. Readers are advised to consult with a qualified financial advisor or legal professional before making any financial decisions. The views expressed in this article are the author’s personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organization or entity the author is affiliated with.
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About the Author
Taresh Bhatia is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER and a Coach at the Richness Academy. With years of experience in guiding individuals and families toward financial freedom, Taresh specializes in helping clients achieve a rich and fulfilling life by aligning their financial decisions with their personal values and long-term goals. As the author of the Amazon best-seller The Richness Principles, Taresh is dedicated to empowering people to take control of their financial destinies and create a life of true wealth and happiness. He offers personalized coaching and mentoring, focusing on senior professionals, entrepreneurs, young married couples, retirees, single mothers, and divorced women. Through his blog, Taresh shares insights on financial planning, wealth creation, and the pursuit of happiness, helping his readers navigate the complex relationship between money and well-being.
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The author of this article, Taresh Bhatia, is a Certified Financial Planner® and advocate for female empowerment. For more information and personalized financial guidance, please contact taresh@tareshbhatia.com
He has authored an Amazon best seller-“The Richness Principles”. He is the Coach and founder of The Richness Academy, an online coaching courses forum. This article serves educational purposes only and does not constitute financial advice. Consultation with a qualified financial professional is recommended before making any investment decisions. An educational purpose article only and not any advice whatsoever.
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